I have been through a lot of conflicts recently in past two three years with my parents,mainly with the matter of marriage.
And there was so much of emotional trauma that had happened in both the sides and I have hurt them badly for not understanding my point of view and they also have hurt me many a times by sticking to their opinion.
But this post is not about marriage or regrading the parent child conflicts,Its about what I might do when I am in their shoes (Which I am thinking now).
Mid fifties,or early sixties are supposed to be golden age for a man/women ,If they are married and their kids are well settled and their income is stable and financial state is stable.
That is the time we have to give time for our pending undone passions,or any wishes which was left undone.
because we have so much time in hand...not much of hurries..health is not deteriorating..no need to keep on watch with the kids,we have all attentions to our-self..and there is no financial problems..
But this syndrome I have seen in many of this generation parents,They worry a lot about daughter/sons marriage (I understand if the daughter/son is not settled there will be worry)or they worry if the daughter/son does not have children.And many many lists of worries like that.
Why worry if the son/daughter is not married,he/she is well settled they will find the right match when the right time comes..can you do some thing about it?, you can not.so instead of worrying just be happy that they are at least settled and manage to take care of themselves.
And there was so much of emotional trauma that had happened in both the sides and I have hurt them badly for not understanding my point of view and they also have hurt me many a times by sticking to their opinion.
But this post is not about marriage or regrading the parent child conflicts,Its about what I might do when I am in their shoes (Which I am thinking now).
Mid fifties,or early sixties are supposed to be golden age for a man/women ,If they are married and their kids are well settled and their income is stable and financial state is stable.
That is the time we have to give time for our pending undone passions,or any wishes which was left undone.
because we have so much time in hand...not much of hurries..health is not deteriorating..no need to keep on watch with the kids,we have all attentions to our-self..and there is no financial problems..
But this syndrome I have seen in many of this generation parents,They worry a lot about daughter/sons marriage (I understand if the daughter/son is not settled there will be worry)or they worry if the daughter/son does not have children.And many many lists of worries like that.
Why worry if the son/daughter is not married,he/she is well settled they will find the right match when the right time comes..can you do some thing about it?, you can not.so instead of worrying just be happy that they are at least settled and manage to take care of themselves.
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